oh the day i’ve had, dear stringies. it started out on twitter, as it does most mornings these days, just catching up with the world, sifting through the many and numerous links and news of the day.
then someone i follow, who i won’t bother naming and shaming, because it would be pointless, tweeted about a woman who was sitting on the train near him.
Oh that’s fucking disgusting. An obese woman sat across from me on train w/ visible pannus (wiki it) hanging below her skirt. Blech!!
now, i don’t care if the woman he’s talking about was rich, poor, black, white, gay, straight, able-bodied, disabled, whatever. we all have a right to go through our day without copping that kind of abuse and prejudice.
(you could argue, i suppose, that she wasn’t ‘hearing’ the abuse, and therefore, y’know, who cares? i don’t see it that way. twitter is a public forum – for all we know, she could read the comments there, figure out it was her and … but even that’s not the point. abuse one black/gay/fat/disabled person, you’re abusing the whole class.)
i was offended on this woman’s behalf. because i’ve been there, y’know? i cop abuse regularly, here on the looks-are-everything gold coast. because being fat is the last remaining ‘acceptable’ abuse.
so i called this guy on it. i called bull-puckey as the Adorkable One would say.
then came the torrent of the usual arseclownery – i’m loving that word today – ‘being gay or black isn’t a choice, being fat is’ … ‘eat less, eat healthy, move your body – 100% guaranteed weight loss’ … ‘i was 140kg, now i’m a healthy 90-95kg, and i’m gay, i know about prejudice, i know what i’m talking about’.
yeh, bullshit, dude.
it worked for you. congratulations. all due respect.
it doesn’t work for everybody. being fat, yes, being obese, is caused by an entire spectrum of factors – physical, psychological, financial, emotional, social, medical, and yes, sexual.
i’ve tried everything. i’m on my second lapband. it’s only now starting to work, six months on from insertion. and there’s a whole bunch of reasons for that, believe me.
the politics of fat isn’t a black and white thing. it’s about pain, and shame, and guilt, and shy, and angry, and abused, and afraid, and expedience, and poverty, and denial, and … i could go on for pages.
regardless of this woman’s reasons for being fat, she is a human being, with human rights, human emotions, human dignity, and she deserves all the respect we give every other human being who crosses our path.
is that really so much to ask for?